do not recreate form instance if the form json is not changed deeply

[TanyaGashtold]

Link to Jira Ticket

https://formio.atlassian.net/browse/FIO-XXXX

Description

What changed?

• store form json in refs and compare it with current props to define if the instance should be recreated
• use the same callback reference to on and off events

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