fix(sliding-sync): keep an accepted invite joined when the server replays stale invite state

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Description

repair the m.room.member event alongside selfMembership so a replayed invite cannot revert an accepted join, and clear the invite the sidebar cache persisted

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Type of change

• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to not work as expected)
• This change requires a documentation update

Checklist:

• My code follows the style guidelines of this project
• I have performed a self-review of my own code
• I have commented my code, particularly in hard-to-understand areas
• I have made corresponding changes to the documentation
• My changes generate no new warnings

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